Read those words again. You are not your paycheck. It logically makes sense but at some point in your life you have probably thought other wise.
Let’s face it when we grow up we are basically trained to talk about certain things with people when we mee them. “How about this weather?” “Where do you work?” Have you ever had those curious (but not meaningful) conversations? Chances are if we opened up with, “hey what brings you joy in your life?” the person would think we are 3 shits of crazy and run away.
It isn’t our fault, it is society, our parents, history, just the way things have been. The problem lies in our attachment to the answer. Yet, we were brought up to believe that some careers are more important than others. Instantly our brain has made a connection with the other person and assumptions about their lifestyle, how much money they make and so on.
Let’s take a look at some examples.
For example, you meet a 40-year-old doctor. OOOOOooooooo AAAAaaaaahhh. They are important, they save lives, they must make so much money and live in such a nice house. Right? Next you meet someone else the same age that works at the local grocery store. They must be struggling to make ends meet right?
I can tell you as a money coach how NOT TRUE any of the above is! Your brain is lying to you. Guess what the truth of the above situation is. The doctor is still paying for student loans, they constantly have to take courses to keep up their education, they have to pay huge expenses and look about 10 years older thanks to shiftwork, and they are so emotionally drained they spend money to feel better and are broke. (Seriously you can read this article why many doctors live paycheck to paycheck)
Meanwhile, that grocery store worker, has worked there since high school. They bought into the company share purchase plan, led a simple life, never got into debt and are only 3 years away from having their mortgage paid off. Oh, and they have a nice pension saved up for retirement.
Yet from the outside view, people might think the Doctor is the financially successful one.
Have you ever felt like you are your paycheck? Now, have you felt that you weren’t good enough because you don’t make X amount of money? If so you may have tied your self worth and self esteem to money.
I repeat…YOU ARE NOT YOUR PAYCHECK.
I challenge you to separate your self worth from everything else in life. Think about how you are outside of work and “the job”. Are you kind to others, make people smile, crafty or just fun? Make a list of your best traits.
Although your self worth should not be attached to money, but your self worth can determine how much money you make! If you think you are crap you will attract just that into your life – more CRAP! If you don’t FEEL WORTHY of money, you never will be!
In fact, as a coach the #1 struggle I see with clients is a LACK OF SELF WORTH. I’m here to tell you that YOU ARE WORTHY! I don’t care who ever in life told you that you aren’t, YOU ARE WORTHY.
If this is something you struggle with contact me for a free chat for some tips and tricks to help you reframe your finances.